Finding Inspiration For Your Wedding: Our Exclusive Sit-Down With Neil Lane

The wedding aficionado and ring designer for ABC’s The Bachelor franchise gives his insight on finding beauty all around

By Neil Lane

Neil Lane Papercut Art Deco Metallic Papercut Gold Ketubah Designs

Inspiration is ephemeral: gossamer, fleeting, it comes to mind like a flash of brilliance but can leave just as quick. But if you’re fast enough, or talented enough, you can grab hold of it and harness it into something beautiful.

Neil Lane is a celebrated designer, collector, curator, and bridal authority. With an eye for style and elegance, Lane is an avid collector of rare jewels, sculptures and fine art. He is the official ring designer for ABC’s The Bachelor franchise, and his signature couture designs have appeared on some of the world’s most glamorous celebrities and red carpets. As an expert on all things wedding-related, we wanted to hear his thoughts on how inspiration comes to him, and how you can move from inspiration to action when designing your own wedding.

Rose Papercut by Enya Keshet

My whole life is about collecting. I wouldn’t have been able to become a designer if I didn’t have my collection to inspire me. Ever since I was a little kid I was collecting things… even things without value such as pebbles and bits and pieces of glass. This evolved to collections of art, antiques and the awareness that certain older objects are highly valuable. I had an eye for special pieces, it came naturally to me. Currently my house is filled with unique art including paintings and wall murals and most Saturdays I’ll invite people over to mingle and talk about art, new ideas and where they draw inspiration from. Whether it be others in the art industry, entertainers, or friends, I hope everyone finds inspiration in the things I’ve collected.

Four Seasons by Jessica Kraft

Weddings can be viewed as a compilation of items that represent your love. From the flowers, rings, dress, decor, ketubah and the venue, your wedding should be filled with items that inspire you to love and celebrate love. I think inspiration comes from everywhere. My inspiration has come from all my experiences throughout my life and continues to grow and expand just as I do. Whether I am wandering through museums for desired color palettes, flipping through home design books for ideas about fabrics, walking through my gardens or simply sitting in a beautiful restaurant, inspiration is all around. 

Verve Papercut by Ruth Becker

As a child I was inspired by the shining glitter of the glass on the floor in the street, the forms of trees & their shadows and cars moving in action. It is important to take note of such items, big and small, that conjure creativity. These memories and the emotions they evoke, will help to develop ideas that you would want to reflect on your wedding day. 

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Art Deco Metallic Papercut, by Neil Lane

The wedding planning process, similar to the art process, is both emotional and creative. I’m always looking for that emotional aspect when creating art such as my Ketubah designs. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, therefore not everyone may see your exact vision. You may see something one way while another person sees the same item completely differently, but that’s the beauty of art- it’s magnanimous. Anyone can look at it and walk away with a whole different feeling.

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From left to right: Art Deco Metallic Papercut, Hibiscus Bloom – Gold Leaf, and Elegant Birds Papercut, art by Neil Lane

Many wedding trends have emerged following the pandemic. People want to celebrate so they’re doing everything and anything! The Covid-19 pandemic taught people that they can celebrate no matter their budget. If they can splurge, they’re going to splurge! If they can’t, they’re still going to make something wonderful and unique. Whether it be a destination wedding, backyard wedding, or even a zoom wedding, anything and everything goes today. No matter what you choose, dig deep for inspiration and make sure your wedding day is a reflection of the things you love. 

I Am My Beloved’s And My Beloved Is Mine: The Meaning And History Of A Popular Jewish Wedding Verse

I am My Beloved Infinity by Shell Rummel

The phrase “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine,” – Song of Songs (Shir HaShirim), is one of the most popular phrases in Judaism, and is included on a lot of Jewish artwork. It’s also included on many of our Ketubahs, so it’s natural to wonder: why? What is the meaning behind this phrase, and why is it so enduring within Judaism?

The Song of Songs is one of the most famous poetic works within the Jewish canon, with its writings affecting many of our understandings within Judaism. As we once noted, the initials of each letter within this phrase spell “Elul,” the final month on the Jewish calendar. Many teachings see this as a lesson in acceptance: Just as Elul is the month of repentance and being accepted for who one is, your love is also an acceptance of yourself and your partner for who they are and who you can be moving forward.

Another common translation of the phrase is “I am for my beloved, and my beloved is for me.” This interpretation brings further depth to our explanation of love and acceptance. It suggests that, while we are constantly striving for self-improvement, our relationships with our loved ones offer the greatest space to do this. We offer our loved ones a nurturing environment for them to grow, learn, experiment, and change into who they are meant to be, and they give us the space to do the same.

While it may be an ancient idea, this concept of radical love and self-improvement has resonated with couples over generations, so it’s no wonder why some of our most popular Ketubahs feature it prominently. Here are a few of our favorite Ani L’Dodi V’Dodi Li Ketubahs.

Love Papercut Ketubah Toronto by Enya Keshet
Love Papercut by Enya Keshet
Ani Ldodi V’dodi Li by Mat Tonti
Verses of Love Papercut by Enya Keshet
Seven Species – Gold Leaf by Lee Loebman
Fantasy Papercut Luxe by Enya Keshet

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Valentine’s Day – Fun Ideas for a Date Night In

This Valentine’s Day might look a little too familiar. The past few years haven’t offered much in the way of fun, carefree outings, as different cities’ restrictions leave you and your significant other scrambling for ideas. But there’s nothing like a good date night in for a cozy, romantic Valentine’s Day. Here are a few ideas from us at Ketubah.com for your Valentine’s Day date night at home.

Wine and cheese tasting night

An oldie but a goodie: Feel fancy on your night in and try out some of your favorite wines and cheeses.

Part of the fun of this is the anticipation: go out together and choose what you’re going to try. Maybe these are your favorite wines, or perhaps it’s something completely new. But by going out together and picking them out in advance, you’re guaranteed to think about it several times a day before the time comes to taste them together.

Break out your charcuterie board, plate the crackers and cheeses nicely, and see what you like! Perhaps you’ll find your palate too refined for certain combinations, or maybe you’ll both just be happy for an excuse to have that much cheese and wine. Either way, you’re in for a good time.

Game night

Have the headbands and hair elastics handy, because it’s about to get competitive. Or not, whatever works for you. Games are great for hanging out in an interactive way while thinking creatively, solving puzzles, or just trying wacky things together. Whether it’s the day’s latest Wordle or the Mario Kart Grand Prix, from Texas Hold ‘Em to It Takes Two, card games or video games, you can find ways to play together and work together and just have a fun night in.

Bake up a storm!

Savory or sweet, baked goods always brings people closer together. Sharing that space together and making something delicious is an amazing experience, and it tastes great too!* If you’re on a bread binge, or want to try making Arepas, then spend the week finding tasty recipes on Pinterest, to narrow down exactly what you want to make. Baking is a great way to make something fun and adventurous together, and have something delicious come from it.

*actual results may vary

Escape Room

Feel like you’ve been cooped up for too long? You’re not alone! Feel that catharsis with a DIY escape room. There are tons of tools online to help you set up your own tasks and puzzles, so if you’re the type of couple who likes to craft things and play games together, then this is the perfect date night for you. There are plenty of different puzzle ideas and instructions that you can find online, so why not try something different?

Spa Night

After a long day, sometime you just need a quiet, relaxing evening. Pick up some face masks, light a candle to set the ambience, and throw in those bath bombs you’ve been hanging on to. While taking care of each other, it’s important to also remember to take care of yourselves.

Take A Class Together

You’ve always talked about learning to dance, and now is a great time to learn how! Find a virtual dance class in the style that you like. Not into dancing? Try yoga. Or cycling. Bodybuilding. Whatever your speed is, there’s a class for you. Virtual classes are a great way to stay active while still having fun with your partner, whether you’re joking through it or if you’re both super competitive. There are tons of instructors online in every manner of class imaginable, so find something you both want to try and give it a go!

Paint Night

Twilight Paradise on easel in-studio set up

Show off your creative side with a paint night! You can pick up paints and canvases from your local art store, sit across from each other and paint whatever comes to mind. You can also give each other prompts to see how the other interprets it – think of it like a really fancy Pictionary.

Not feeling so creative? There are tons of painting tutorials on YouTube where you can see how they do it, and follow along (or go at your own pace) to put your own spin on things.

What Matters Most

At the end of the day, the best thing you can do for your partner is show them that you care. If big, romantic gestures are your way of doing that, then pull out all the stops! If smaller, more intimate gestures are more your speed, then great! As long as it shows that you’re thinking about them, and that you love them, you can’t go wrong.